Loving people through their "stuff" is really hard. Being loved in our "stuff" is really hard.

Tough love.

Actually caring about someone and not liking them at the same time can cause a great pull.

Division.

Tug-of-war.

The greatest commandment is for us to love God with all our strength, mind, body and soul.(paraphrasing)
The next one is to love our neighbor as ourselves. It doesn't say we have to like them. Lord, show us how to love when we dont even like sometimes.

We must love them.
We must step in the gap and interceede. Pray.

I think it can become easy to sit in our own feelings and fester. Let our emotions become a cauldron bubbling over.
Isn't it true that we are all sinners?
Doesn't the Bible say that no sin is greater then the next?
Let he who has no sin cast the first stone? I mean, didn't they all walk away from the prostitute when Jesus said that??
So if this is the case, why is it that some sin carries more weight then others?? Some sin causes much more pain and grief.
Lord, help us to see through your eyes. You bore ALL sin on the cross, simultaneously, so we could be washed clean by Your blood.
We are in need of Your balm. Salve. Healing.
Lord it is so apparent that we need YOU!!
Not some of the time.
ALL OF THE TIME!!